As we get older our bodies change. As a baby the sutures or anatomical lines where the bony plates of the skull join together can be easily felt, over time the fuse together as the infants body develops. Emotionally and physically babies are highly dependant on their parents for everything including food, warmth, security, emotional wellbeing, love and attention.
Puberty then kicks in. Earlier for most girls than boys and with it a whole host of trouble. Body parts change, smells and hair grow and emotionally you can be all over the place and you don’t want anyone to help you with anything, “I’m fine”.
Other landmarks come and go, birthdays (18th & 21st) weddings, divorce, midlife crisis and eventually old age. At some point along this life graph we start to revert to previous stages for our needs. These manifest themselves as emotional and physical requirements that are either mildly or strongly demanded.
Lets take some of the physically requirements for my mum.
- Heat – the house is a permeant sauna, even with multiple layers on and the availability of blankets the central heating is always on apart from late at night. We all have dry skin as a result and the amount of hand cream being consumed is vast. Hopefully as the outside weather warms up we can reduce the radiator temperature and help reduce the UK CO2 production.
- Food – Ella is nearly always hungry and I would suggest any healthy active child should be as they continue to grow and develop. The type of food they eat is the problem and one that leads to obesity in children. I have no problem with Ella munching on something health, every time she says she’s hungry. Mum on the other hand craves her biscuits and cakes, which for a diabetic whose sugar level was recorded at the peak of the equipment’s limits shows how bad it was. The good news is that her appetite has improved since being on insulin, eating two hot meals a day and even trying to steal a crisp or two. Even funnier when its a monster munch pickled onion flavour crisp which she doesn’t like but took it any way.
- Strops & stubbornness- Probably the hardest child like behaviour to cope with is stubbornness and stroppiness. A parent can simply send a child to their room to think about their behaviour. When it’s your parent, what can you do. Nothing is the easy answer and one that I’m slowly learning. Similar to being a parent of a baby, you learn to read the signs. Body language gives a lot away and a reluctance to answer a direct simple question is a clear indicator that the conversation is over and the subject is closed.
Eventually I’m going to see if there are any support groups locally. Not that I currently feel the need to get answers from a guru or have any major concerns. More of a way to see if others are experiencing the same sort of thing with their parents, as their care needs evolve and change through the next emotional and physically stage of this rollercoaster we call life.